Nobody Will help But Everybody Will Tell You Are Wrong
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Number 531
Conspirator for: 15 years 45 weeks
Posted on: July 15, 2009 - 1:47pm
I once wrote on the subject of why it was that even though I'm physically disabled I rarely ask for help was because if you ask for help then you won't get the help you think you need you'll get the help others think you need.
Further to that I'd say in general that in general people are more likely to tell you that you're wrong then help you.
For instance let's say there's a guy with physical disabilities who doesn't want to be a guy but wants to be a woman, in other words they're a transsexual. It's more then likely that those transsexuals will not only tell that individual they're getting etc wrong in relation to transitioning to being female but won't offer any help in how they perceive that individual should be doing etc properly. Oh but if they do it will only be to the extent of getting on their high horse usually as a result to their own insecurities. There are many a transsexual who really do think that if you aren't doing a, b, c & d, as they have done then either your letting the transsexual cause down or you're not a genuine transsexual. Basically what I'm saying is that transsexuals are far more likely to criticize other transsexuals then offer any help particularly if that transsexual isn't strictly adhering to the a, b, c & d, that that those critics reckon a transsexuals should be obeyed of course regardless as to whether that individual is physically capable of doing so. It's all kind of ironic for members of a minority who often claim they are the victim of discrimination & oppression are often bitchy & spiteful towards others with the same disorder rather then be supportive. If transsexuals & transgendered people as a whole want greater justice then cease doing each other down & start being far more supportive towards one another then its more likely esteem & pride will increase, a better position to gain justice etc.
There's obviously a lack of respect for individuality amongst transsexuals but that's a reflection of society as a whole. When I first wrote that 'because if you ask for help then you won't get the help you think you need you'll get the help others think you need', an acquaintance of mine who happen to be politically libertarian took that quote to heart as one of the all time great libertarian quotes, even though I never intended it to be a particularly libertarian rather politically a poke at social democrats who always arrogantly think they know what's best for you. Put it this way most social workers are most probably politically social democrats & often prove such in the way they conduct themselves with clients. Take the disabled guy who wants to be a woman you'd think that how progressive most social workers are that they'd be willing to assist them. Err you'd be mistaken its more likely a social worker would insist they undergo therapy.
In another piece I wrote about disability & the state I wrote about a circumstance of a disabled woman I'd heard of who'd told the social worker assisting them they wanted to be a professional dominatrix, the social worker suggested that they needed to undergo therapy & rather listening to the wishes of their client even though their client happens to own their own body but because they're unfortunately physically hampered they can't engage in activities they'd enjoy & possibly earn a living from without the assistance of others.
Oh but Ziggy somebody wanting to be a professional dominatrix or a transsexual is somewhat odd don't you think? Why should they be considered odd or weird why can't people respect individual choice & assist people in the choices they want to make? Ah yes I forgot we have less & less respect for individuality replaced by ever greater adherence to social conventions. Yes citizen if you don't obey conventions a, b, c & d then you're 'disturbed' or 'maladjusted' basically you're a fucking kook because you don't want to be a fucking clone of everybody else. Yep you're fucked up if you don't want to be married with 2.4 children, living in a semi detached which has been mortgaged up to your eyeballs, drive a Volvo station wagon, football on a Saturday, roast beef of a Sunday & holidays in Spain. People think I exaggerate but in my experience is that unless you want to be a middle class clone then people will treat you like leper & you'll be ostracised even though you've done no wrong.
For years now I've been advocating in the strongest terms for years that there is a severe lack of respect for individuality, people would rather criticize you for exercising your individuality then support you doing so. Ironically the vast majority of people who take any notice of what I write think my perception is distorted or think I'm wrong, very few people agree with me let alone will do anything to change the culture. All of which is a clear illustration to me that in fact I'm right because if people did have greater respect for individuality then my circumstance wouldn't be be held prisoner by pointless anti individualist convention.
I once wrote on the subject of why it was that even though I'm physically disabled I rarely ask for help was because if you ask for help then you won't get the help you think you need you'll get the help others think you need.
Further to that I'd say in general that in general people are more likely to tell you that you're wrong then help you.
For instance let's say there's a guy with physical disabilities who doesn't want to be a guy but wants to be a woman, in other words they're a transsexual. It's more then likely that those transsexuals will not only tell that individual they're getting etc wrong in relation to transitioning to being female but won't offer any help in how they perceive that individual should be doing etc properly. Oh but if they do it will only be to the extent of getting on their high horse usually as a result to their own insecurities. There are many a transsexual who really do think that if you aren't doing a, b, c & d, as they have done then either your letting the transsexual cause down or you're not a genuine transsexual. Basically what I'm saying is that transsexuals are far more likely to criticize other transsexuals then offer any help particularly if that transsexual isn't strictly adhering to the a, b, c & d, that that those critics reckon a transsexuals should be obeyed of course regardless as to whether that individual is physically capable of doing so. It's all kind of ironic for members of a minority who often claim they are the victim of discrimination & oppression are often bitchy & spiteful towards others with the same disorder rather then be supportive. If transsexuals & transgendered people as a whole want greater justice then cease doing each other down & start being far more supportive towards one another then its more likely esteem & pride will increase, a better position to gain justice etc.
There's obviously a lack of respect for individuality amongst transsexuals but that's a reflection of society as a whole. When I first wrote that 'because if you ask for help then you won't get the help you think you need you'll get the help others think you need', an acquaintance of mine who happen to be politically libertarian took that quote to heart as one of the all time great libertarian quotes, even though I never intended it to be a particularly libertarian rather politically a poke at social democrats who always arrogantly think they know what's best for you. Put it this way most social workers are most probably politically social democrats & often prove such in the way they conduct themselves with clients. Take the disabled guy who wants to be a woman you'd think that how progressive most social workers are that they'd be willing to assist them. Err you'd be mistaken its more likely a social worker would insist they undergo therapy.
In another piece I wrote about disability & the state I wrote about a circumstance of a disabled woman I'd heard of who'd told the social worker assisting them they wanted to be a professional dominatrix, the social worker suggested that they needed to undergo therapy & rather listening to the wishes of their client even though their client happens to own their own body but because they're unfortunately physically hampered they can't engage in activities they'd enjoy & possibly earn a living from without the assistance of others.
Oh but Ziggy somebody wanting to be a professional dominatrix or a transsexual is somewhat odd don't you think? Why should they be considered odd or weird why can't people respect individual choice & assist people in the choices they want to make? Ah yes I forgot we have less & less respect for individuality replaced by ever greater adherence to social conventions. Yes citizen if you don't obey conventions a, b, c & d then you're 'disturbed' or 'maladjusted' basically you're a fucking kook because you don't want to be a fucking clone of everybody else. Yep you're fucked up if you don't want to be married with 2.4 children, living in a semi detached which has been mortgaged up to your eyeballs, drive a Volvo station wagon, football on a Saturday, roast beef of a Sunday & holidays in Spain. People think I exaggerate but in my experience is that unless you want to be a middle class clone then people will treat you like leper & you'll be ostracised even though you've done no wrong.
For years now I've been advocating in the strongest terms for years that there is a severe lack of respect for individuality, people would rather criticize you for exercising your individuality then support you doing so. Ironically the vast majority of people who take any notice of what I write think my perception is distorted or think I'm wrong, very few people agree with me let alone will do anything to change the culture. All of which is a clear illustration to me that in fact I'm right because if people did have greater respect for individuality then my circumstance wouldn't be be held prisoner by pointless anti individualist convention.